I'm not sure if anyone will really be reading this blog. If it's like my myspace, I only have 10 friends and I think only one of them really looks at it. I'm a relatively private person, but I love to write and I feel that I have a lot to write about. The names, of course, will be changed to protect the innocent (or won't be, if you aren't innocent) and I will use this forum to talk about what I've learned at this point in my life.
I'm 40 years old and I still feel like I'm 12. I have been married, had kids, been divorced, dated, gone to school, stayed in a relationship for eight years, graduated from school, worked in a corporate environment, went back to school...and even now...I'm still wondering what I want to be when I grow up. But, if there is anything I have learned after 40 years, it is this. Accept your Life, Enjoy your Life, Be Enthusiastic about your Life, or CHANGE IT! Life is too short to be complaining, depressed, bored, or blah...I have made both good decisions and bad (really bad), but I made decisions! I have learned so much by "living" and I hope that I have shown those who have come after me that life doesn't end at 40, 50, or 90 years old...and it certainly doesn't end at 25!
Since I've gone back to school, I have had so many kids ask me for advice about career choices, life choices, and relationships. It's weird that they are asking me the same questions I have asked adults all my life, and I can't possibly understand why they would want my opinion (umm...because they don't know me!) Anyway, here is a very short list of things I have learned about this process of becoming a mature adult...maybe it will help someone somewhere...or maybe it won't, but at least I gave it a valiant effort...
I'm 40 years old and I still feel like I'm 12. I have been married, had kids, been divorced, dated, gone to school, stayed in a relationship for eight years, graduated from school, worked in a corporate environment, went back to school...and even now...I'm still wondering what I want to be when I grow up. But, if there is anything I have learned after 40 years, it is this. Accept your Life, Enjoy your Life, Be Enthusiastic about your Life, or CHANGE IT! Life is too short to be complaining, depressed, bored, or blah...I have made both good decisions and bad (really bad), but I made decisions! I have learned so much by "living" and I hope that I have shown those who have come after me that life doesn't end at 40, 50, or 90 years old...and it certainly doesn't end at 25!
Since I've gone back to school, I have had so many kids ask me for advice about career choices, life choices, and relationships. It's weird that they are asking me the same questions I have asked adults all my life, and I can't possibly understand why they would want my opinion (umm...because they don't know me!) Anyway, here is a very short list of things I have learned about this process of becoming a mature adult...maybe it will help someone somewhere...or maybe it won't, but at least I gave it a valiant effort...
- If you are not enjoying what you do, change your job, life, relationship, etc...What good are you doing anyone staying in a situation that makes you unhappy. And, stop making your friends have to listen to you complain about it.
- Love yourself first...everyone else comes second. That isn't because everyone else doesn't matter. It just means that if you don't love yourself, no one else will...
- Never center your life around another person and never let another person be your life.
- Love the time of life you are in...because before you know it, everything has changed and you missed out!
- If you are going to school, take your time, take the classes you are supposed to (don't take the easier substitute just because it's easier), don't stop till your finished, and be what you want to be...not what everyone else tells you that you should be.
- Go on vacation!!! Play, laugh, and have fun!
- If you want plastic surgery, a tattoo, or a motorcycle...get it! But get it for the right reasons...for you and only you.
- Save money in a savings account and don't touch it for at least 10 years.
- Tell those you care about how much you love them. Tell those who continue to abuse you to get lost.
- When faced with the choice of whether or not to have kids...from my experience...I would say have them. They are the best thing that ever happened to me.
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